Someone posed a great question to me today, and in responding to them, I started thinking about the role of a woman in marriages, and how it can reflect our heart for Jesus. Here’s what I had to say…
Question: What do u think of this a couple has a 2 month old child and the wife wants to go out to a coworkers party which she did even though the Husband isn’t agreeing with it?
Answer: Hi there. Well, there are two things here. One, the wife probably needs a break. If going to the party is a way for her to relax and have a little harmless fun, but there are concerns about how they decide to have fun then they should look at other options for her to relax and have some fun.
Two: It is never wise for one person in the marriage to do something just because they want to, especially when their spouse discourages it. Both should be honest and communicate their reasons. The party is there to serve a need. Find out the need and address it in a healthy manner without causing divisions in the marriage. That takes work on both parts.
In the end, people unfortunately will sometimes do what they want and we have to find a way to move past the hurt, feelings of disrespect, and bridge communication again. It isn’t easy – it requires time and both have to willingly take steps to rebuild trust. I say both because the woman who went to the party is likely angry herself, thinking the husband doesn’t care about her and her needs, even in situations where alcohol or drugs were to be at said party. It still comes down to feelings hurt on both sides and the need to acknowledge and apologize for failing each other.
I hope this helps. My husband has been there where his ex did many things he discouraged. I respect and listen to my husband, even if I don’t understand his reasons. For me, it comes down to faith that my husband is seeing something I’m not seeing. It takes a strong sense of self and respect to lay your desires down but that is what we do continuously at the foot of Jesus.
The bible says to submit to our husbands, and for a woman, doing so prepares our hearts to receive Jesus. How can we lay our lives down for Jesus if we cannot do it for our husbands? For the sake of our families? To be a woman is to sacrifice and Jesus is our great example.
I don’t know if this is a real example in your life but marriages all over the world suffer when women do not understand why they have to submit to their husbands. I will pray for your relationships and pray that communication and respect prevail, that Jesus is properly placed before you, and that your heart is open to the will of God for the sake of your family. God bless you.
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