Even when you’re going through it,

You’re not going through it;

You’re tiptoeing around,

Careful not to step on

Your own thoughts, your own feelings. 

You don’t really want to talk about it;

You don’t really want to write about it.

You only want to think about, write about 

Nothing at all.

The nothingness that stares you in the face,

The nothingness that will never be nothing again,

The life that will never be the same.


A Refuge For The Oppressed


I wrote a song on my last album called, “Don’t Let Me Get Comfortable.” It’s one of those songs with a strong message that had to have come from up above because I was just a baby Christian at the time. Especially considering it’s something I’m still grappling with. It sounds like cake when the sun is out, but let a storm roll in and it’s hard not to run for shelter.

When I think of shelter, I normally think of the comfy couch in my living room. Even the seats in my mini-van aren’t that bad. But what if you had to endure the storm way past your limit in order to have the things you really wanted? Would you weather the storm or settle on whatever is closest just to get out of the rain? If you’re just looking to get out of the rain, you might settle for something like this…


Does it make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside? Does it bring you a sense of peace? I feel like I would be in even more danger in that shack than I would be outside of it. And isn’t that how it feels sometimes when we are in a hurry to find peace?

When we get tired and fed up with our current situation we will look for anything to make us feel better.

We decide to seek shelter in the world from things that don’t provide the comfort we are seeking. It may be food, drugs, sex, money, gambling… even relationships with people we know aren’t good for us. For me it’s food, sweets specifically and with everything I’m going through, it’s the last thing on earth I need. On that note, I’m just going to put these jellybeans aside.

The good news is that it is okay to seek comfort in stressful times, but it should come from God.

It is okay to come in out of the rain, but we have to be mindful of what’s really going on. We need to know in every given situation if we are choosing comfort provided by the Lord, or comfort provided by the world. Are we looking for a quick bandaid or true healing? We also have to make sure that our seeking comfort is not a way for us to escape the path He has set us on (which is what my song was about).

There are many verses in the bible that talk about comfort during trying times, especially in the Book of Psalms. Psalm 9:9 tells us that “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.” Elsewhere in the Psalms, we learn that “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (46:1). And then of course, there is Psalms 55:22 “Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.”

When we are in a rainy season, or even a season of waiting, it is easy to give in to temptation and mistake it for comfort. On the other hand, when we seek the arms of the Lord, there is never a guilt residue. There is never the thought of “I should have done this, or I shouldn’t have done that.” When we seek comfort from God, we truly receive peace, hope, comfort, and love. I pray these things find a way to your heart, whatever your season.

Never Out Of Reach


I am nothing.

I am nothing without you.

If you hadn’t loved me,

How would I know love?

If you hadn’t loved me,

How would I know

What it means to love another?


Before you,

I didn’t know comfort.

Before you,

I didn’t know the feeling of safety.

And now that I know you,

My whole world has changed.


Heaven was never out of reach

But I finally see with open eyes.

How to Pray For Your Children

Normally, I intro my way into one of my posts. Today’s message is going to be much bolder than that. No holding back, cut to the chase…

Pray passionately and IN FRONT of your children. Let them see you weep and cry out to the Lord. We are teaching our children how to live as Christ-filled and Christ-led with every one of our actions, but how can we do that when we shield them from our struggles? When we hold everything in, trying not to cry, because we don’t want to stress them out? Your kids already know that you are stressed, and yes, that does stress them out. BUT keeping that stress to yourself instead of releasing it to the Lord does nothing to relieve the stress. If anything, it can make things worse.

Unresolved, stress will eat away at your family.

Unresolved, stress will open the door for the devil to walk in your lives. 

In order to protect your family, you have to fall to your knees with your family. Give your kids an opportunity to pray first, asking them what they want to say to Jesus. I started this with my step kids at the age of three. Sometimes, William has something he wants to say and sometimes not. Either way, it gives him an opportunity to speak from his heart and deal with his own fears, handing them over to Jesus.

It’s never too early for a child to call out to Jesus for love, comfort, and protection. 

When your kids have had their turn, pour out your own heart. Pray out loud and don’t hold back. Let the words flow out of you, unobstructed. You may not know it, but praying brings comfort to your kids. Just as Jesus brings comfort to us, showing our heart and love for Jesus in prayer comforts our kids. I can’t tell you how many times my kids have fallen asleep while I’m praying over them. It is an amazing and beautiful thing to watch, and the revelations that can come out of these prayer sessions can literally leave you weeping with joy in the end.

I am praying for the person reading this message. I am praying for your children, and for your children’s children. Psalm 78:5-7 tells us that “He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which he commanded our ancestors to teach their children, so the next generation would know them, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children. Then they would put their trust in God and would not forget his deeds but would keep his commands.”

It’s never too late to start praying for your children, or too early to start praying for their children.