It’s Not About Me


I have spent a lot of time these last few months spinning my wheels, doing nothing. The tv is a nice mindless activity to get me through the bulk of my day without requiring a lot of energy out of me. This works because getting around has largely been hard for me to do as my back and hips continue to heal from the cancer. I sit in the nice chair my in-laws brought over for me with two main things in my lap – my dog and the remote. The problem is that it really doesn’t require anything out of me except a commitment to only the tv and nothing else. Ever notice how easily we go from one episode to the next while watching something on Netflix and before we realize it, several hours have passed and we have nothing to show for ourselves? They want this to happen or they never would have created the auto play option. And honestly, the last time I ever spent this much time binge watching tv was before I met my husband, before I got saved. I’ve had more important things to do. So why do I sit here now and consume so much that does so little for me?

The answer is really very simple. Call it avoidance of the big and little feelings that I have to still deal with lurking on the back burner of my mind. Or laziness to dive into something that will require a bigger commitment than I feel I can commit to. Maybe a bit of both even. There was a time when I longed to spend my days reading the bible all day instead of working. Now that I am home all day, this couldn’t be further from the reality of my current situation. Before an hour ago, I hadn’t opened my bible in weeks. Sure, I’ve listened to a few sermons but it’s not the same. Before today, I haven’t listened to worship music in weeks. Why? Because being well takes me forward a few steps and being unwell takes me back a few. There have been moments on this journey where I have really seen God’s hand, and then the rest of the time it seems like just deafening silence. And having to deal with things you don’t really want to deal with is sometimes enough of a reason to pull away from someone like Jesus, even when in my heart I know that He is the answer, the solution to everything I am dealing with. I’m not proud saying this but even I am not a person with perfect faith and perfect obedience to Him.

Why am I telling you this? Because the struggle is real. Every day is a battle to get back to Him, to get back to His word. The devil doesn’t want me to rely on Him for strength. In fact, the farther he can get me from the word of God, the more he can try and fill my head with nonsense. I know the truth but it’s still easy to take me away from God when I give in to the bleakness of my situation, when I let go of Him and hold on to the sickness my body is battling. I don’t want to live my life spinning wheels and just taking up space. Yes, there are still a lot of things I can’t do but there is plenty I can still do for the kingdom. Sometimes, it just takes me to wake up from my slumber and remember this isn’t about me. This whole cancer journey is not about whether I live or die, but about whether others live or die knowing Jesus. It’s time I remember my part.




If Happiness Is Your Goal

“As believers, I think we live under a false assumption that we always have to be happy, that somehow happiness is a part of who I am. And I’ve always got to be happy and I’ve always got to be up, and I never face reality and I never face my problems and I never face the challenges that come. This is our way.

But listen to me, if happiness is your goal, it becomes very elusive. And let me tell you why, because happiness is all about me. And you become very inward-focused. And so we strive for happiness and we search for happiness but somehow happiness in itself, if that becomes your end goal, it becomes very, very elusive.

It’s like that elusive butterfly that lights for a moment of happiness but all of a sudden, it goes away and when it goes away, you are left empty all again, and you search for your next way to find some kind of happiness, and it just kind of goes.

As a believer, the chief end of man is not your happiness but is to glorify the Lord.”

Pastor Larry Burgbacher, Faith Assembly of God
From “At The Movies Part 1: Inside Out”


No Shades For Me

Before I got saved, I read the first two books in the Shades of Grey series. I was in a relationship at the time and saw nothing wrong with reading them. They were exciting, quick reads because you just didn’t want to put them down. The only reason I didn’t read the last one was because I wasn’t able to borrow a copy. I never bought the books and I’m glad I didn’t.

Since getting saved, I have been removing the shades on things I used to enjoy and seeing them for what they really are in God’s eyes. Conviction can be taken as an insult by some people but for me it has been an opportunity to walk more in line with Jesus. I’m not going to say it’s been easy to let go of the temptations in this world but I am learning one sin at a time.

I’m not going to see 50 Shades of Grey tonight. I’m not going to see it this weekend or wait for it to come out on video. I’m not going to engage in colorful conversations about the movie nor will I allow myself to judge others that do. I’ve chosen a different path, one that is right for me, my husband, and my family.

We can choose to live in darkness or we can choose to live in the light. For me, I’ve learned not to want the darkness anymore. I won’t let it seduce me. I’m keeping my eyes focused on Jesus and leaving the shades in the drawer. What can I say? I’ve always liked the sun in my eyes.